Wednesday, July 11, 2018

What to Do When Nice Doesn't Work!

Oh my gosh-ah!

Can you believe that July is already here!?!

Me either (...or is it me neither?! I can't remember...)

We waited all winter for this and now it's upon us!

You know what I'm going to say next right?!

Lots going on!!

(See, I told you...)

Anyway... I'm going to get 'right to it.' So to speak!

What To Do When Nice Isn't Enough?!

So, you...

(1) Dial in your Baseline (Attitude, Awareness, Appropriate Action) to be part of the solution, not the problem. 
(2) Separate the persons Life Value from their behavior and beliefs.
(3) Avoid power struggles & decided whether or not to even engage.
(4) (Upon deciding to engage) You begin appropriately managing the situation by  drawing clear, most good, least harm boundaries.

...but  Nice, Clear and Appropriate Isn't Working!!!!

Now What?!

Do you have a plan?

If so, what is it?


Let Me Be Clear...

I'm not talking ONLY about defending yourself here...

Oh no!

That'd be too easy!

I'm asking you to consider this in your life!

What happens when one of your staff members keeps coming in late no matter how many times you told them nicely

What happens when you just spent a gazillion dollars on that marketing initiative but regardless, your business doesn't reach it's sales goals?

What happens when you ask your kid to behave, but they just won't?

What do you do when your significant other is annoying the sh*t out of you, you ask them nicely to stop... and they don't!

What do you do when you pull someone over for doing 13 over and they won't give you their licence?

What do you do when you ask your client for that big sale you've been working on all month, but nada! Nothing?!

What's next when you ask that obnoxious person to leave and they won't?

How do you handle that student who keeps acting up and disrupting class no matter what you seem to do?

What do you do when you're not getting your way and you've ran out of nice?

Taking It to the 'Next Level...'

Yes, one option is to go all Krav on their a$$...

And as good as that would feel, it's rarely the answer! =(

So, what am I talking about?

YOU have to take it to the 'Next Level.'

Meaning that it isn't so much about directly controlling the person or situation...

It's more about controlling YOU!

As Holocaust Survivor and Famous author of 'Man's Search for Meaning,' Viktor Frankl once said,

"When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves."

Now, don't take that as you have to lower your ethical standards, or even agree with what is happening...

No, no, no...

You don't, however, see it for what it is and change your strategy!

"Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results."

~Albert Einstein (allegedly)

4 Key Elements to Knowing What to Do When Nice Isn't Enough...

(1) Have CLARITY of what is important
(2) Have SKILLS in the area necessary to solve the problem
(3) Have CONFIDENCE in your abilities that you can adapt & still succeed 
(4) Have a Plan 'B' - a simple approach to what YOU will do if your 'Plan A' isn't working!

Skill in Conflict

If you are looking for greater skill when dealing with the full spectrum of human conflict (Ethical, Emotional, Verbal, Physical, Social) you may consider checking out the up coming PeaceWalker Course that will be opening for registration later this summer.

It will give you the tools to know what to do when nice isn't working!

More on that as we move through the summer...

In the meantime...

Enjoy your day and I'll catch up with you soon!

You got this,

Tuesday, July 3, 2018

The THING Behind the Thing

Well, the 4th of July is almost upon us! 

I am in the Great White North here in Michigan doing some camping. (Pic featured above!)... Just south of the Big Mac Bridge. 

I escaped 'the wild' for a couple minutes to a wifi oasis to quick write you a little something something before going back out into the 'wilderness'. =)

I hope you are ready to celebrate the independence of this great country of ours with some friends and family this week?!

I like to take a minute or three to remember what the holiday is really all about, before going back to the beer, BBQ & other festivities. 

The THING Behind the Thing

Before you go unsubscribing... Give me a minute to explain...

Take the 4th of July where everyone is partying, bbq'n, drinking, family'n, camping, cooking out, boating, hanging out and having a good time. 

That's the 'Thing'...

But let's not forget the THING behind the thing, which in this case is remembering and celebrating our country's independence. 


Take training tactical defense, martial arts or Krav Maga...

What is the THING Behind that Thing?

No matter what it is, we all get into our 'Stuff'.  You know?! If you're into shooting you might be into the latest, greatest, hi-tech weapon or accessory. If you're into martial arts, it might be the latest technique or rank, patch or weapon. 

Or maybe it's how many times you've been to Israel (or Japan) to train. Or how close your lineage is to the founder. Or how much notoriety you got at that tournament, promotion or award...

And there's nothing wrong with any of that... until there is! 


Because it really ISN'T about any of that...

Come on now...

Try to remember WHY you started that journey in the first place. 

If you're anything like me, you started in the martial arts, Krav Maga, shooting, etc. because you wanted to learn how to Defend Yourself and Your Family!?

Yes, there may be some other reasons too, but that was my primary reason.

Was it yours too?! 

Is that why you started? 

If it is then that's the THING behind that thing is...

To Protect LIFE!

So while we are out there training that new technique you saw Eddie Bravo do on youtube, or you're getting that new Tactical Fluggle-binder for your Desert Eagle .50 Cal... 

Remember, the THING behind the thing, is first and foremost to learn and sustain the skills to protect LIFE... So in the event that you may have to use your skills or tools, they are there for you...

And that my friends is the...

The THING Behind the Thing!

So, if you are talking to someone who has a different approach than you do. Maybe a different martial arts style. Maybe they like revolvers and you're an automatic man. Maybe you stand by your Glock but the gal you're talking to swears by her Sig. 

Who cares?! 

My question is, 

Are you training to be a Protector of Life!?

Do you use your skills to do Most Good, Least Harm for everyone involved?

Are you training to walk in peace? To be a PeacWalker?!

Because if you are, no matter the flavor, or style, we're on the same side. We're fighting for the same thing. 

And I got your back! 

Speaking of Protecting...

Don't forget the PDD [PeaceWalker Deed of the Day] today! 

Post yours in our Facebook PeaceWalker Community Group 

Some AWESOME Changes Coming! 

For those of you who want to stay better connected and are interested in more training in this Protector Lifestyle. We have some Exciting NEW things coming your way! 

1) More fb LIVE Training sessions.
2) LIVE MasterClass Q & A's! Opportunity to ask my MasterClass guests questions regarding their MasterClass!
3) LIVE 10 in 10's (10 questions in not quite 10 minutes) 

...and more!

Some of these coming changes will be for everyone... Other's will be for Members Only! 

More info on that soon....

In the meantime...

Have a Great 4th of July Holiday!

...And when you're out there having all that home town fun, don't forget the THING behind the Thing!

Keep Going,

July 3rd

Saturday, June 30, 2018

[Re]Calibrate Your Protector Identity

The Protector Ethic

A few months ago I was approached by a friend and colleague of mine, James Morganelli to read the new book he just got a publishing deal on and to write a review of it.

AWESOME I thought!

Not only do I get to help a Buyu of mine (martial friend). I finally get published, if only for a paragraph!

Being my book, after been edited and critiqued, needs a massive overhaul... (just got pushed on the 'to-do' list for 2019)! =)

Anyway, back to Jim's book...

James is a good writer, who has been published in numerous magazines and periodicals such as Black Belt Magazine and The Federalist and now YMAA book publishing just published his new book called:

"The Protector Ethic"

Rather than reinventing the wheel... or in this case thinking of something more to say about Jim's book here's what I am quoted as saying...

[Re]Calibrate Your Protector Identity

So, if you want a quick read (weighing in less than 150 pages) to [re] calibrate your Protector Identity, consider reading Jim's book.

Here's the link:

Remember, will be Opening Soon for new members!

So, if you want to get inside access to all of our special 'classified' training videos, MasterClass Interviews, tips, tricks & tactics and training courses, than get on the Wait List HERE!

So you can get in when it opens up! We're only going to keep it open for a very short time! New members will be taken in on a first come, first served basis!

More AWESOME stuff On the way... Just not today.

In the meantime...

Have a Great 4th of July Week!

Enjoy your day and I'll catch up with you soon!

You got this,

Friday, June 29, 2018

Give a Man a Fish...

Tuesday Grant, my trusty creative director of media =) [how's that for a title Grant!?!] and I began our video shooting schedule!

It started a little rocky...

First, on my way to our first shoot location (an old shut down school on the West side of GR) I get a text from Grant saying that there are about a dozen police cars there?!?

My guess is that they are doing active shooting drills in the abandoned school. The irony isn't lost on me... however, we need a new place to shoot... We drive around a little bit and I spy a place right down the road that would work. It's a cool old brick building that used to be a mortuary (ohhh... creepy!). Now it looks like it was bought by some non-profit.

Rather than just setting up our equipment and starting to record, I figured it would be the professional thing to actually ask...

I knock on the back door... no dice, so I walk around the front to see if I can get anyone's attention. An older man comes to the door. He has a skeptical, 'who the hell are you' look on his face...

Time to put my PeaceWalker Communication Skills to work... (shameless plug)

I introduced myself and told him what we were up to. He lightened as he told me that his name was John and that as long as we didn't get his sign in our video that he was fine with us using the side of his building to shoot our video.

Cool! We were off to the races...

So we get everything set up and I get wired into my microphone...

"Check one, two, three... Check. Check Check."


Grant and I fiddle with the camera and mic... Nothing...

I plug it into my phone to see if we get anything there...


*Flash back to the morning at my place*

(Looking down at the THREE lapel mic's I have...) Nah, I'll only bring this one, I just used it, it worked great! Why bring more stuff to get in the way?!

*Back to the video shoot w/Grant*

Son of a ...

I tell Grant to hold down the fort, jump in my car and truck my happy a$$ all the way back home to get my other lapel mics.

I make good time and we get the shots we need and move to our next location downtown GR. Seven or so hours later, we wrap up, just beating the rain.

A good productive day!

We have a full shooting schedule this summer for some REALLY COOL material that'll be coming your way later this season!

One of the things we're recording is a NEW Training Module on Tactical Space...

I know that may not mean anything to some of you out there, so let me explain...

Tactical Space...

Tactical Space is the place of advantage... It's the 'Space' where you have the upper-hand... The space that is critical for accomplishing whatever technique you're trying to apply. The space where all of the 'stuff' happens.

Basically, if you have the ability to see and take the advantage of the Tactical Space, you will have an advantage in any situation.

During a physical altercation.

This series will go into the 5 different tactical strategies and the 2 sub-categories for a total of 7 strategies:

1.   Holding
1a. (Checking)
2.   Creating
3.   Collapsing
3a. (Overwhelming)
4.   Evading
5.   Void

In this FREE module I'll explain each of the strategies in depth and then show how each one can be applied to gain the advantage in both a physical and verbal engagement.

BTW - This will make your Krav Maga techniques A LOT more effective in the gym and more importantly if you every really had to defend yourself or someone else.

PDD Re[Boot]

The Protector Deed of the Day [PDD] is now Officially the PeaceWalker Daily Deed!

Yes, I just got word in from our global headquarters of this monumental change!

As amazing as this is...

The BIG question is...

Did you do yours yet?!

If you did, be sure to post it on our PeaceWalker Community Facebook Group -

Give a Man a Fish...

As part of the Most Good / Least Harm Model, whenever possible, lead with inspiration rather than intimidation...

What does that look like?

#1 - Lead from the front... Meaning that if you are walking the walk, rather than just talking the talk, people are more apt to follow you!

So, get out there and Set the Pace!

#2 - Respect - Be able to separate someones Value as a Human Being from their behavior and beliefs. Show respect to the Life Value of the person even if you don't agree with their actions, convictions or idea.

#3 - Protect - How can you protect them (like a PDD only better). Not just physically. Think about it... If you are an employer one way you protect your employee is by making sure they get paid what you agreed upon.

#4 - Empower - Teach them how to DO it! You know the old adage:

"Give the man a fish and he eats for a day. Teach a man how to fish and he can feed himself for a lifetime (his family too!)."

When you empower the person (or team) to be successful, they're more likely follow you AND it's SO MUCH LESS MANAGEMENT!

Go Teach Someone Something!

Today, as your PDD [PeaceWalker Deed of the Day], go teach someone something today!

Tomorrow I want you to post in our Facebook PeaceWalker Community Group the ONE THING that you taught to someone.

This isn't to brag!!

It's to help us get in the habit of (subtly or directly) of being a PeaceWalker...

Remember, it's about the little things!

Working on the little things make it possible to do the big things!!

You got this,

Wednesday, June 20, 2018

Gun Laws & Arming Teachers

Structure, Freedom & Security...

Conflict Resolution expert Dr. Robert Humphrey once said that we should have all of the Freedom Possible with all the Security Necessary within the context of respecting the Universal Life Value.

Now this is a great philosophy, but it needs to be clearly understood and applied.

Having freedom doesn't include being free to do things that disrespect, hurt or kill other people.


Obtaining security doesn't mean becoming paranoid or oppressing and bending others to one's will unnecessarily or in benefit of only you or your group (unequally) over others. 

And herein lies the problem...


Because these ideas have a lot of breadth and depth and can be interpreted in many ways...

Should Guns Be Banned?

There are different ways to interpreting and finding a solution to a problem. 

Take the current problem of the rise of 'Active Shooters' (or Assailants) incidents in our schools, churches and other public areas.

Some see the issue being that society shouldn't be this way in the first place and guns are a big part of the problem. They see (a large part of) the solution being limiting access to those weapons.

So, many people are raising their voice to 'restrict or ban guns' in some form or another.

Others are asking...

Should We Arm Our Teachers?

These people advocate that society will always have violent people in it and those people will find a way to hurt and kill regardless of the law. So, taking away gun rights will restrict the ability for good people to protect them selves from threats that will be there regardless of gun restriction.

And further, because most incidents end before authorities arrive on scene, that in order to protect ourselves and others from these potentially lethal threats, they need to be armed, ready to take down the threat themselves.

Same Problem... Different Solution!

Maybe we should Ban Guns AND Arm Our Teachers?!? =)

If either one would solve the problem, then doing BOTH would REALLY solve the issues right!?

No... You and I both know that doing both wouldn't alleviate the problem...

However, there is no guarantee that by doing either of them will give us a solution either.

Despite all of the differences in opinion, the common ground is this:

We Are Afraid and We Want to Feel Safe!

Both sides of the discussion may or may not have valid points, however the more we argue the more we continue to become polarized on the subject.

As we do this we lose sight of the common ground and spend more time arguing our point and creating adversaries, than working on a solution.

Maybe the solution isn't in either of the proposed answers?!


After you discuss, argue, petition, advocate, complain and vote, how much control do you have over the situation if the policy (law) outcome isn't what you want?


We are all innate protectors. It's what we do.

However HOW we choose to protect can differ as much as WHAT we choose to protect.

Leaders (such as teachers) are looked at as protectors...

Parents put their child's safety in the hands of licensed professionals to have a safe and respectful learning environment.

Even more to the point, the children look to the teachers for safety, guidance and leadership.

So, whether or not you believe in, or carry a firearm, isn't the point.

THE point is actually THREE Points...

(1) How can we move forward as a society to address the issues behind why these acts of violence are occurring with more frequency?

(2) How can we all be better protectors of ourselves and others, through implementation of policy, laws and organizational structure to change this trend?

But More Importantly as an Individual...

(3) What can YOU DO NOW to maximize your own safety & the safety of everyone around you? How can you be more of an effective protector and leader?

You should absolutely support your own personal views, exercise your right to vote, advocate for your opinion in whatever manner makes sense, however when the rubber meets the road, it is your personal decision, so don't rely on a law or policy to dictate your personal ethos, or to protect you, your kids or students in the face of violence. Do your research, train appropriately and respond as needed regarding the situation.

Remember, when it comes to discussing emotional subjects like this try to make Allies not Adversaries as you brainstorm solutions.

If You Want More Information On Active Shooter Preparedness... and connect to this Protector Lifestyle. Then subscribe to my PeaceWalker [Almost] Daily email Newsletter HERE.

You got this,

Tuesday, June 12, 2018

Creating Your Aha Moment

Lately, I have been putting A LOT of time and effort into a membership site coaching program called Tribe.  
Because YOU deserve the Best from ME, so I continue to learn how to make things better for you, because I not only want to share this incredible PeaceWalker Path with the world, I want to make the entire experience as best as I can for you!  So, I keep training, learning and growing to be able to do that!

I've been pushing hard to learn what my coach Stu Mclearn and Ryan Lee have been teaching me and then IT HAPPENED!!

Yesterday I had a HUGE Aha Moment!!!

All that time and effort (and I mean years of it!) finally makes sense! It is something that has been right in front of my face the whole time. I've seen it over and over, but I didn't really SEE it... and then...


I mean really CLICK!! NOW It All Makes Sense!  It is soooo simple, but I just wasn't getting it! I had it kinda, but I didn't HAVE IT!

I’m not saying that I'm done now that I had my Aha! Moment. No no no no. This is just the beginning! Now I can move forward w/so much more clarity, focus, and momentum. It really maximizes my efforts and results!

Your Aha! Moment

Have YOU ever had an Aha! Moment?

Something that you may have seen a million times before, but for some reason, this time it looks different...

And then a light goes ON!


Yes, That's IT!

This Aha!  Moment could be in anything of your life:

Training in Krav Maga, working out something that's been bothering you personally, Parenting, fixing your furnace, choosing a college, working on some problem or puzzle, going through a rough spot in a relationship, figuring your budget... figuring out your LIFE!

Basically, that Aha! Moment can be for anything that you have been wading through in life!

So here's the BIG QUESTION...

How Can You Stimulate the Aha! Moment?

Yes you can, but it is more like farming than hunting...

Here are the key elements:

1) Seek the knowledge or insight.
2) Apply what you've learned.
3) Ask Questions to gain clarity.
4) DOWN TIME! Yep, time that you don't think about it.These times typically come after a big push!
5) Surround yourself with people who are already successful at what you are trying to achieve.
6) Keep it Playful and Keep It Going!!! Have faith that it will come =)

That's All I Got For Now!


If you want to learn How to Protect Yourself Physically, Emotionally & Verbally  and control the 'Tactical Space' of conflict then don't miss your chance to join us on our PeaceWalker Community facebook group:

I hope to see you there!

You got this,

Thursday, May 31, 2018

The Two Sides of the Gun Violence Debate

I was recently asked to be a panelist on a community meeting regarding Gun Violence in Schools. I somewhat reluctantly accepted...


Because some of these meetings are healthy and beneficial. Others are just a circus of minefields, agendas, fear, anger and soapboxes. None of which I have any interest in. I will know tomorrow night at the event whether or not I made a wise decision regarding being a part of this event.

DIY v. It Takes a Village

It seems that there are two main ways many people are coming at this "gun violence in schools" issue.

1) This group believes that we need to restrict or ban guns so that dangerous people can't have access to them.

I call these people the "It Takes a Village".

The "It Takes a Village" perspective believes that we as a society shouldn't have the need for the citizens to have access to weapons personally, because "the Tribe" (Society: a.k.a. police and/or military) should / will protect you.  So there is no need for the citizens to have such weapon(s). The availability of weapons either makes the problem worse or possibly creates the problem all together.

The second group are the DIY's or Do It Yourselfer's...

2) They think that we need more individual freedom and power to protect ourselves.

This group feels that there are always going to be people doing bad things and the way to solve the issue is to allow / encourage more citizens to protect themselves. They want less organizational control and want the means to "Do It Themselves" so to speak.

One side believes that Less or No Guns will solve the issue, because we are able to fix society enough so we won't need them.

The other side believes that More armed people and continued access to guns is the way to go to address the situation. Because society will always have people who you will have to defend yourself from (sometimes even the government).

My perspective...

I know. I know. I'm Over Simplifying It! But, it does help people to understand the basic premise of the conservative v. liberal leanings. So, Which One Is Right?!!

I don't think either one perspective is completely right. As usual I think the answer lays somewhere in the middle between the two.

I think we need a Peaceful Well Protected Village that is made up of independent, powerful Do It Yourselfers!

As Dr. Robert Humphrey said,

"All the freedom possible with all of the security necessary."

And as I have said,

"It's hard to be peaceful in a violent community."

I believe that we need to strive to make our society as open, loving and safe as we can while preserving individual rights of life, liberty, freedom to the pursuit of happiness.  A difficult balance for sure.  My main point is for us not to lose focus on what we are trying to accomplish. To protect the people in our school. Protect the kids, teachers, staff and visitors from acts of violence.

I know we have different opinions and approaches to accomplish this, and let’s go ahead and discuss, stand up for, vote, advocate and fight for those opinions. But not at the expense of losing sight of our common goal.

To Protect Life!

That is what we have in common... Let's not forget it!

Facebook LIVE! Score!!

Yesterday, I recorded another facebook LIVE on our PeaceWalker Community Group Page. I'm happy to say that this time it went well!

We talked about the 3 States of Communication. If you missed it you can watch it here:

If you're bummed that you didn't catch me LIVE, don't worry, I'll be doing more short trainings like that soon!  I'll let you know when, so you can jump in!

Well, I'll talk to you later!  I hope you are able to take advantage of this awesome day!!

Keep Going,