Wednesday, July 11, 2018

What to Do When Nice Doesn't Work!




Oh my gosh-ah!

Can you believe that July is already here!?!

Me either (...or is it me neither?! I can't remember...)

We waited all winter for this and now it's upon us!

You know what I'm going to say next right?!

Lots going on!!

(See, I told you...)

Anyway... I'm going to get 'right to it.' So to speak!

What To Do When Nice Isn't Enough?!

So, you...

(1) Dial in your Baseline (Attitude, Awareness, Appropriate Action) to be part of the solution, not the problem. 
(2) Separate the persons Life Value from their behavior and beliefs.
(3) Avoid power struggles & decided whether or not to even engage.
(4) (Upon deciding to engage) You begin appropriately managing the situation by  drawing clear, most good, least harm boundaries.

...but  Nice, Clear and Appropriate Isn't Working!!!!

Now What?!

Do you have a plan?

If so, what is it?

And...

Let Me Be Clear...

I'm not talking ONLY about defending yourself here...

Oh no!

That'd be too easy!

I'm asking you to consider this in your life!

What happens when one of your staff members keeps coming in late no matter how many times you told them nicely

What happens when you just spent a gazillion dollars on that marketing initiative but regardless, your business doesn't reach it's sales goals?

What happens when you ask your kid to behave, but they just won't?

What do you do when your significant other is annoying the sh*t out of you, you ask them nicely to stop... and they don't!

What do you do when you pull someone over for doing 13 over and they won't give you their licence?

What do you do when you ask your client for that big sale you've been working on all month, but nada! Nothing?!

What's next when you ask that obnoxious person to leave and they won't?

How do you handle that student who keeps acting up and disrupting class no matter what you seem to do?

What do you do when you're not getting your way and you've ran out of nice?


Taking It to the 'Next Level...'

Yes, one option is to go all Krav on their a$$...

And as good as that would feel, it's rarely the answer! =(

So, what am I talking about?

YOU have to take it to the 'Next Level.'

Meaning that it isn't so much about directly controlling the person or situation...

It's more about controlling YOU!

As Holocaust Survivor and Famous author of 'Man's Search for Meaning,' Viktor Frankl once said,

"When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves."

Now, don't take that as you have to lower your ethical standards, or even agree with what is happening...

No, no, no...

You don't, however, see it for what it is and change your strategy!

"Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results."

~Albert Einstein (allegedly)


4 Key Elements to Knowing What to Do When Nice Isn't Enough...

(1) Have CLARITY of what is important
(2) Have SKILLS in the area necessary to solve the problem
(3) Have CONFIDENCE in your abilities that you can adapt & still succeed 
(4) Have a Plan 'B' - a simple approach to what YOU will do if your 'Plan A' isn't working!

Skill in Conflict

If you are looking for greater skill when dealing with the full spectrum of human conflict (Ethical, Emotional, Verbal, Physical, Social) you may consider checking out the up coming PeaceWalker Course that will be opening for registration later this summer.

It will give you the tools to know what to do when nice isn't working!

More on that as we move through the summer...

In the meantime...

Enjoy your day and I'll catch up with you soon!


You got this,
~Craig

Tuesday, July 3, 2018

The THING Behind the Thing



Well, the 4th of July is almost upon us! 

I am in the Great White North here in Michigan doing some camping. (Pic featured above!)... Just south of the Big Mac Bridge. 

I escaped 'the wild' for a couple minutes to a wifi oasis to quick write you a little something something before going back out into the 'wilderness'. =)

I hope you are ready to celebrate the independence of this great country of ours with some friends and family this week?!

I like to take a minute or three to remember what the holiday is really all about, before going back to the beer, BBQ & other festivities. 


The THING Behind the Thing
What?!

Before you go unsubscribing... Give me a minute to explain...

Take the 4th of July where everyone is partying, bbq'n, drinking, family'n, camping, cooking out, boating, hanging out and having a good time. 

That's the 'Thing'...

But let's not forget the THING behind the thing, which in this case is remembering and celebrating our country's independence. 

So...

Take training tactical defense, martial arts or Krav Maga...


What is the THING Behind that Thing?

No matter what it is, we all get into our 'Stuff'.  You know?! If you're into shooting you might be into the latest, greatest, hi-tech weapon or accessory. If you're into martial arts, it might be the latest technique or rank, patch or weapon. 

Or maybe it's how many times you've been to Israel (or Japan) to train. Or how close your lineage is to the founder. Or how much notoriety you got at that tournament, promotion or award...

And there's nothing wrong with any of that... until there is! 

Why!?

Because it really ISN'T about any of that...

Come on now...

Try to remember WHY you started that journey in the first place. 

If you're anything like me, you started in the martial arts, Krav Maga, shooting, etc. because you wanted to learn how to Defend Yourself and Your Family!?

Yes, there may be some other reasons too, but that was my primary reason.

Was it yours too?! 

Is that why you started? 

If it is then that's the THING behind that thing is...

To Protect LIFE!

So while we are out there training that new technique you saw Eddie Bravo do on youtube, or you're getting that new Tactical Fluggle-binder for your Desert Eagle .50 Cal... 

Remember, the THING behind the thing, is first and foremost to learn and sustain the skills to protect LIFE... So in the event that you may have to use your skills or tools, they are there for you...

And that my friends is the...

The THING Behind the Thing!

So, if you are talking to someone who has a different approach than you do. Maybe a different martial arts style. Maybe they like revolvers and you're an automatic man. Maybe you stand by your Glock but the gal you're talking to swears by her Sig. 

Who cares?! 

My question is, 

Are you training to be a Protector of Life!?

Do you use your skills to do Most Good, Least Harm for everyone involved?

Are you training to walk in peace? To be a PeacWalker?!

Because if you are, no matter the flavor, or style, we're on the same side. We're fighting for the same thing. 

And I got your back! 

Speaking of Protecting...

Don't forget the PDD [PeaceWalker Deed of the Day] today! 

Post yours in our Facebook PeaceWalker Community Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/1790355384325766/ 


Some AWESOME Changes Coming! 

For those of you who want to stay better connected and are interested in more training in this Protector Lifestyle. We have some Exciting NEW things coming your way! 

1) More fb LIVE Training sessions.
2) LIVE MasterClass Q & A's! Opportunity to ask my MasterClass guests questions regarding their MasterClass!
3) LIVE 10 in 10's (10 questions in not quite 10 minutes) 

...and more!

Some of these coming changes will be for everyone... Other's will be for PeaceWalker.net Members Only! 

More info on that soon....

In the meantime...

Have a Great 4th of July Holiday!

...And when you're out there having all that home town fun, don't forget the THING behind the Thing!

Keep Going,
~Craig 


July 3rd

Saturday, June 30, 2018

[Re]Calibrate Your Protector Identity




The Protector Ethic

A few months ago I was approached by a friend and colleague of mine, James Morganelli to read the new book he just got a publishing deal on and to write a review of it.

AWESOME I thought!

Not only do I get to help a Buyu of mine (martial friend). I finally get published, if only for a paragraph!

Being my book, after been edited and critiqued, needs a massive overhaul... (just got pushed on the 'to-do' list for 2019)! =)

Anyway, back to Jim's book...

James is a good writer, who has been published in numerous magazines and periodicals such as Black Belt Magazine and The Federalist and now YMAA book publishing just published his new book called:

"The Protector Ethic"

Rather than reinventing the wheel... or in this case thinking of something more to say about Jim's book here's what I am quoted as saying...






[Re]Calibrate Your Protector Identity

So, if you want a quick read (weighing in less than 150 pages) to [re] calibrate your Protector Identity, consider reading Jim's book.

Here's the link:



Remember, PeaceWalker.net will be Opening Soon for new members!

So, if you want to get inside access to all of our special 'classified' training videos, MasterClass Interviews, tips, tricks & tactics and training courses, than get on the Wait List HERE!

So you can get in when it opens up! We're only going to keep it open for a very short time! New members will be taken in on a first come, first served basis!

More AWESOME stuff On the way... Just not today.

In the meantime...

Have a Great 4th of July Week!

Enjoy your day and I'll catch up with you soon!


You got this,
~Craig

Friday, June 29, 2018

Give a Man a Fish...





Tuesday Grant, my trusty creative director of media =) [how's that for a title Grant!?!] and I began our video shooting schedule!

It started a little rocky...

First, on my way to our first shoot location (an old shut down school on the West side of GR) I get a text from Grant saying that there are about a dozen police cars there?!?

My guess is that they are doing active shooting drills in the abandoned school. The irony isn't lost on me... however, we need a new place to shoot... We drive around a little bit and I spy a place right down the road that would work. It's a cool old brick building that used to be a mortuary (ohhh... creepy!). Now it looks like it was bought by some non-profit.

Rather than just setting up our equipment and starting to record, I figured it would be the professional thing to actually ask...

I knock on the back door... no dice, so I walk around the front to see if I can get anyone's attention. An older man comes to the door. He has a skeptical, 'who the hell are you' look on his face...

Time to put my PeaceWalker Communication Skills to work... (shameless plug)

I introduced myself and told him what we were up to. He lightened as he told me that his name was John and that as long as we didn't get his sign in our video that he was fine with us using the side of his building to shoot our video.

Cool! We were off to the races...

So we get everything set up and I get wired into my microphone...

"Check one, two, three... Check. Check Check."

Nothing.

Grant and I fiddle with the camera and mic... Nothing...

I plug it into my phone to see if we get anything there...

Nothing...

*Flash back to the morning at my place*

(Looking down at the THREE lapel mic's I have...) Nah, I'll only bring this one, I just used it, it worked great! Why bring more stuff to get in the way?!

*Back to the video shoot w/Grant*

Son of a ...

I tell Grant to hold down the fort, jump in my car and truck my happy a$$ all the way back home to get my other lapel mics.

I make good time and we get the shots we need and move to our next location downtown GR. Seven or so hours later, we wrap up, just beating the rain.

A good productive day!

We have a full shooting schedule this summer for some REALLY COOL material that'll be coming your way later this season!

One of the things we're recording is a NEW Training Module on Tactical Space...

I know that may not mean anything to some of you out there, so let me explain...

Tactical Space...

Tactical Space is the place of advantage... It's the 'Space' where you have the upper-hand... The space that is critical for accomplishing whatever technique you're trying to apply. The space where all of the 'stuff' happens.

Basically, if you have the ability to see and take the advantage of the Tactical Space, you will have an advantage in any situation.

During a physical altercation.

This series will go into the 5 different tactical strategies and the 2 sub-categories for a total of 7 strategies:

1.   Holding
1a. (Checking)
2.   Creating
3.   Collapsing
3a. (Overwhelming)
4.   Evading
5.   Void

In this FREE module I'll explain each of the strategies in depth and then show how each one can be applied to gain the advantage in both a physical and verbal engagement.

BTW - This will make your Krav Maga techniques A LOT more effective in the gym and more importantly if you every really had to defend yourself or someone else.


PDD Re[Boot]

The Protector Deed of the Day [PDD] is now Officially the PeaceWalker Daily Deed!

Yes, I just got word in from our global headquarters of this monumental change!

As amazing as this is...

The BIG question is...

Did you do yours yet?!

If you did, be sure to post it on our PeaceWalker Community Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/1790355384325766/


Give a Man a Fish...

As part of the Most Good / Least Harm Model, whenever possible, lead with inspiration rather than intimidation...

What does that look like?

#1 - Lead from the front... Meaning that if you are walking the walk, rather than just talking the talk, people are more apt to follow you!

So, get out there and Set the Pace!

#2 - Respect - Be able to separate someones Value as a Human Being from their behavior and beliefs. Show respect to the Life Value of the person even if you don't agree with their actions, convictions or idea.

#3 - Protect - How can you protect them (like a PDD only better). Not just physically. Think about it... If you are an employer one way you protect your employee is by making sure they get paid what you agreed upon.

#4 - Empower - Teach them how to DO it! You know the old adage:

"Give the man a fish and he eats for a day. Teach a man how to fish and he can feed himself for a lifetime (his family too!)."

When you empower the person (or team) to be successful, they're more likely follow you AND it's SO MUCH LESS MANAGEMENT!


Go Teach Someone Something!


Today, as your PDD [PeaceWalker Deed of the Day], go teach someone something today!

Tomorrow I want you to post in our Facebook PeaceWalker Community Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/1790355384325766/ the ONE THING that you taught to someone.

This isn't to brag!!

It's to help us get in the habit of (subtly or directly) of being a PeaceWalker...

Remember, it's about the little things!

Working on the little things make it possible to do the big things!!


You got this,
~Craig

Wednesday, June 20, 2018

Gun Laws & Arming Teachers




Structure, Freedom & Security...

Conflict Resolution expert Dr. Robert Humphrey once said that we should have all of the Freedom Possible with all the Security Necessary within the context of respecting the Universal Life Value.

Now this is a great philosophy, but it needs to be clearly understood and applied.

Having freedom doesn't include being free to do things that disrespect, hurt or kill other people.

And...

Obtaining security doesn't mean becoming paranoid or oppressing and bending others to one's will unnecessarily or in benefit of only you or your group (unequally) over others. 

And herein lies the problem...

Why!?

Because these ideas have a lot of breadth and depth and can be interpreted in many ways...


Should Guns Be Banned?


There are different ways to interpreting and finding a solution to a problem. 

Take the current problem of the rise of 'Active Shooters' (or Assailants) incidents in our schools, churches and other public areas.

Some see the issue being that society shouldn't be this way in the first place and guns are a big part of the problem. They see (a large part of) the solution being limiting access to those weapons.

So, many people are raising their voice to 'restrict or ban guns' in some form or another.

Others are asking...


Should We Arm Our Teachers?


These people advocate that society will always have violent people in it and those people will find a way to hurt and kill regardless of the law. So, taking away gun rights will restrict the ability for good people to protect them selves from threats that will be there regardless of gun restriction.

And further, because most incidents end before authorities arrive on scene, that in order to protect ourselves and others from these potentially lethal threats, they need to be armed, ready to take down the threat themselves.


Same Problem... Different Solution!


Maybe we should Ban Guns AND Arm Our Teachers?!? =)

If either one would solve the problem, then doing BOTH would REALLY solve the issues right!?

No... You and I both know that doing both wouldn't alleviate the problem...

However, there is no guarantee that by doing either of them will give us a solution either.


Despite all of the differences in opinion, the common ground is this:


We Are Afraid and We Want to Feel Safe!


Both sides of the discussion may or may not have valid points, however the more we argue the more we continue to become polarized on the subject.

As we do this we lose sight of the common ground and spend more time arguing our point and creating adversaries, than working on a solution.

Maybe the solution isn't in either of the proposed answers?!

Regardless...

After you discuss, argue, petition, advocate, complain and vote, how much control do you have over the situation if the policy (law) outcome isn't what you want?

WHAT THEN?!

We are all innate protectors. It's what we do.

However HOW we choose to protect can differ as much as WHAT we choose to protect.

Leaders (such as teachers) are looked at as protectors...

Parents put their child's safety in the hands of licensed professionals to have a safe and respectful learning environment.

Even more to the point, the children look to the teachers for safety, guidance and leadership.

So, whether or not you believe in, or carry a firearm, isn't the point.


THE point is actually THREE Points...


(1) How can we move forward as a society to address the issues behind why these acts of violence are occurring with more frequency?

(2) How can we all be better protectors of ourselves and others, through implementation of policy, laws and organizational structure to change this trend?

But More Importantly as an Individual...

(3) What can YOU DO NOW to maximize your own safety & the safety of everyone around you? How can you be more of an effective protector and leader?


You should absolutely support your own personal views, exercise your right to vote, advocate for your opinion in whatever manner makes sense, however when the rubber meets the road, it is your personal decision, so don't rely on a law or policy to dictate your personal ethos, or to protect you, your kids or students in the face of violence. Do your research, train appropriately and respond as needed regarding the situation.

Remember, when it comes to discussing emotional subjects like this try to make Allies not Adversaries as you brainstorm solutions.

If You Want More Information On Active Shooter Preparedness... and connect to this Protector Lifestyle. Then subscribe to my PeaceWalker [Almost] Daily email Newsletter HERE.


You got this,
~Craig

Tuesday, June 12, 2018

Creating Your Aha Moment




Lately, I have been putting A LOT of time and effort into a membership site coaching program called Tribe.  
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WHY!?
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Because YOU deserve the Best from ME, so I continue to learn how to make things better for you, because I not only want to share this incredible PeaceWalker Path with the world, I want to make the entire experience as best as I can for you!  So, I keep training, learning and growing to be able to do that!

I've been pushing hard to learn what my coach Stu Mclearn and Ryan Lee have been teaching me and then IT HAPPENED!!

Yesterday I had a HUGE Aha Moment!!!

All that time and effort (and I mean years of it!) finally makes sense! It is something that has been right in front of my face the whole time. I've seen it over and over, but I didn't really SEE it... and then...

IT CLICKED!

I mean really CLICK!! NOW It All Makes Sense!  It is soooo simple, but I just wasn't getting it! I had it kinda, but I didn't HAVE IT!

I’m not saying that I'm done now that I had my Aha! Moment. No no no no. This is just the beginning! Now I can move forward w/so much more clarity, focus, and momentum. It really maximizes my efforts and results!

Your Aha! Moment

Have YOU ever had an Aha! Moment?

Something that you may have seen a million times before, but for some reason, this time it looks different...

And then a light goes ON!

Aha!

Yes, That's IT!

This Aha!  Moment could be in anything of your life:

Training in Krav Maga, working out something that's been bothering you personally, Parenting, fixing your furnace, choosing a college, working on some problem or puzzle, going through a rough spot in a relationship, figuring your budget... figuring out your LIFE!

Basically, that Aha! Moment can be for anything that you have been wading through in life!

So here's the BIG QUESTION...

How Can You Stimulate the Aha! Moment?

Yes you can, but it is more like farming than hunting...

Here are the key elements:

1) Seek the knowledge or insight.
2) Apply what you've learned.
3) Ask Questions to gain clarity.
4) DOWN TIME! Yep, time that you don't think about it.These times typically come after a big push!
5) Surround yourself with people who are already successful at what you are trying to achieve.
6) Keep it Playful and Keep It Going!!! Have faith that it will come =)

That's All I Got For Now!

REMEMBER...

If you want to learn How to Protect Yourself Physically, Emotionally & Verbally  and control the 'Tactical Space' of conflict then don't miss your chance to join us on our PeaceWalker Community facebook group:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/1790355384325766/

I hope to see you there!

You got this,
~Craig

Thursday, May 31, 2018

The Two Sides of the Gun Violence Debate




I was recently asked to be a panelist on a community meeting regarding Gun Violence in Schools. I somewhat reluctantly accepted...

Why?!

Because some of these meetings are healthy and beneficial. Others are just a circus of minefields, agendas, fear, anger and soapboxes. None of which I have any interest in. I will know tomorrow night at the event whether or not I made a wise decision regarding being a part of this event.

DIY v. It Takes a Village

It seems that there are two main ways many people are coming at this "gun violence in schools" issue.

1) This group believes that we need to restrict or ban guns so that dangerous people can't have access to them.

I call these people the "It Takes a Village".

The "It Takes a Village" perspective believes that we as a society shouldn't have the need for the citizens to have access to weapons personally, because "the Tribe" (Society: a.k.a. police and/or military) should / will protect you.  So there is no need for the citizens to have such weapon(s). The availability of weapons either makes the problem worse or possibly creates the problem all together.

The second group are the DIY's or Do It Yourselfer's...

2) They think that we need more individual freedom and power to protect ourselves.

This group feels that there are always going to be people doing bad things and the way to solve the issue is to allow / encourage more citizens to protect themselves. They want less organizational control and want the means to "Do It Themselves" so to speak.

One side believes that Less or No Guns will solve the issue, because we are able to fix society enough so we won't need them.

The other side believes that More armed people and continued access to guns is the way to go to address the situation. Because society will always have people who you will have to defend yourself from (sometimes even the government).

My perspective...

I know. I know. I'm Over Simplifying It! But, it does help people to understand the basic premise of the conservative v. liberal leanings. So, Which One Is Right?!!

I don't think either one perspective is completely right. As usual I think the answer lays somewhere in the middle between the two.

I think we need a Peaceful Well Protected Village that is made up of independent, powerful Do It Yourselfers!

As Dr. Robert Humphrey said,

"All the freedom possible with all of the security necessary."

And as I have said,

"It's hard to be peaceful in a violent community."

I believe that we need to strive to make our society as open, loving and safe as we can while preserving individual rights of life, liberty, freedom to the pursuit of happiness.  A difficult balance for sure.  My main point is for us not to lose focus on what we are trying to accomplish. To protect the people in our school. Protect the kids, teachers, staff and visitors from acts of violence.

I know we have different opinions and approaches to accomplish this, and let’s go ahead and discuss, stand up for, vote, advocate and fight for those opinions. But not at the expense of losing sight of our common goal.

To Protect Life!

That is what we have in common... Let's not forget it!

Facebook LIVE! Score!!

Yesterday, I recorded another facebook LIVE on our PeaceWalker Community Group Page. I'm happy to say that this time it went well!

We talked about the 3 States of Communication. If you missed it you can watch it here:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/1790355384325766/

If you're bummed that you didn't catch me LIVE, don't worry, I'll be doing more short trainings like that soon!  I'll let you know when, so you can jump in!

Well, I'll talk to you later!  I hope you are able to take advantage of this awesome day!!

Keep Going,
~Craig

Wednesday, May 30, 2018

Epic Failure




Ok, Spoiler Alert!!!!

That title is a bit of a stretch...

A bit of an exaggeration even...

However, it is something that I did that was avoidable even with all of my "Conflict Management" experience...

Do you remember that old adage,

“Praise in public.
Criticize in private.”

Well... the EPIC FAILURE I am referring to is regarding that saying...

Here I am a conflict management 'expert' and I didn't abide by this very old and simple rule...

Why?!

Because I'm some jerk?!

NO...

I wasn't really trying to be, I just didn't think the situation was that big of a deal. However, I didn't consider what the other person had into it!  The result was hurt feelings, that could probably have avoided had I been thinking more about how the other person would feel about it.

A part of me knew that it might end up being a sensitive issue, yet it didn't register enough for me to act on it...
I underestimated their reaction and didn't do what I should have to be more sensitive about the circumstance...

Needless to say, I feel bad...

So, for all of you out there in PeaceWalker Land...

Here's the Lesson...

Remember...

“Praise in Public.
Criticize in Private.”

EVEN When YOU Think It's NOT a Big Deal, The OTHER Person MIGHT!!

Join me and other PeaceWalkers on our Facebook Group - PeaceWalker Community.

Here's the link:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/1790355384325766/



Keep going,
~Craig

Tuesday, May 29, 2018

Why Your Krav Maga Isn't Enough!


No, that bald guy isn't me... However there is a 'striking' resemblance!



Is Krav Maga Enough!?

You may think this headline is surprising coming from someone (me) who teaches Krav Maga...

Let me explain...

In today's day and age being able to physically defend yourself is a good start, but it isn't enough!!

You have to have more social skills!

I know that may be difficult to believe in an age where we don't seem to interact face to face very well at all!

However, believe it or not, the way we socially interact has become much more complicated. 

Just look at how kids interact with their parents now-a-days...

When I was a kid, if I dared to talk back, show the attitude or disobey my parents, it wasn't a long drawn out sparring match of deescalating, negotiating and rationalizing...

Nope, it was a much shorter matter altogether...

It was a simple 3 step process:

(1) Ask
(2) Tell
(3) Feel the consequences of my decision

Here's how it went...
First they'd ask me to do something...

If I didn't do it or whined...

Then they'd...

Tell me to do it...

If I was disrespectful or didn't do as I was told...

Then...

WHACK!

Yep, I'd get a solid hand across my rear end.

No long drawn out, drama filled interactions.

It was as simple as...

1-2-3!

So, what happened when I got older?

Well, first off, by that time I was conditioned to show respect and do as I was asked, so that took care of most things.

However, the few times I was too old to spank, but too young to know better, it was...

Soap!

Yep, the old bar of soap in the mouth trick... followed by being grounded!

Once again, no drawn-out drama, it was...

1-2-3

I remember the ONE TIME I lost it and called my mom a b*tch (yea, not proud of that one... but hey, I was 15...).

I knew I was wrong even as the words were leaving my mouth...

The next thing that happened was the feeling of her hand slapping me across my face...

The stern look she gave me would have made Vladimir Putin himself re-think his decision...

I remember keeping eye contact, while fighting back the tears, not wanting her to see me cry...

Immediately after the sting, I thought 'Oh, sh*t what did I just do!?! I hope she doesn't tell dad, because if she does... My @$$ is grass (as they used to say...)!

Now keep in mind that even at 15, I towered over my mom by almost a foot!

Did I say, I knew that I was wrong even as I uttered that blasphemous word!?

Shortly after the altercation and my emotional state subsided, the feelings of remorse and shame came over me. I lost it and calling my mom something like that wasn’t right.

Later I apologized and we made up...

Luckily for me... she never did tell my dad!

I don't tell that story to Justify the Violence...


...for the record I was not beaten as a child (at least not by my parents).

I had a great childhood. My parents were (are) wonderful. They never hit me without cause, nor did they go too far (which I know isn't always the case with every parent out there.).

But, I knew clearly where the line was... and what happened when I crossed it.

Even with all with the problems my brother had, and his violent, off the hook behavior, he knew at a visceral level never to lay a hand on mom. He knew what dad would do to him if he dared!

We had a healthy respect for both our parents. We knew that they were fair, but firm and when they had to bring the disciplinary hammer down, we deserved what was coming. I know that I was blessed with ethical parents who loved me and knew how to separate discipline from just violence.

I also know that not everyone had that same experience with their family...

Oh, How Things Have Changed!

Whether you think things are better or worse...

The ole' 1-2-3 doesn't work that way today! You have to more socially savvy... That means you have to have a different skill set than just learning how to hit and kick.

Today you have to be able to:

(1) Keep a Cool Head (Baseline)
(2) Communicate More Effectively
(3) Have More Strategy... Way more!

Because we go over these in much greater depth in the PeaceWalker Course, and to save time, I'm going to cut some corners here regarding going into too many details on these points...

BASELINE –

By keeping your Baseline I mean that you have to be able to stay grounded:

(a)Tactical (in the moment)
(b) Foundational (in your Life)

Why!?

Because if you can't keep your cool and control your emotions, then you will not be able to control your actions and that will prevent you from acting in the more sophisticated way necessary to effectively manage the full spectrum of conflict.

Effective COMMUNICATION will largely be verbal (or written), supported by body language and facial expressions, and of course actions that reinforce what you say.

Tactical Verbal (and written) Communication will include:
   
~ Setting Boundaries
~ Persuading
~ Negotiating
And now a-days you have to be BETTER than ever before in order to not end up with a lawsuit or having CPS knocking at your door...

STRATEGY?!

Yes, you have to understand the key elements of Controlling the Engagement.

Control the battlefield so to speak.

Learning how to control the space around an individual (and situation) is not an easy skill to learn. It takes time and persistence to develop the right perspective... To focus on the right things!

Which takes...

The right type of instruction and instructors!

Try reading Miyomoto Mushashi's Book of Five Rings and squeezing out the lessons... You may need someone to help you decipher Mushashi's words before you have any real chance at applying it in any type of a real situation!


So, What Are You Doing to Hone Your Skills?

Maybe you practice your Krav Maga or Physical Martial Arts Skills every week?

What are you doing to learn and hone your skills at Conflict Communications and Strategy?

If you aren't reading books on keeping your cool, verbal communication and how to think strategically, why not start!?

Although there are many books I could recommend, here are three that come to mind regarding our subject(s) today.

(1) Taming Your Gremlin by Rick Carson (Baseline)
(2) How to Talk to Anyone, Anytime, Anywhere by Larry King (Communication)
(3) The 33 Strategies of War by Robert Greene

They're useful reads to get you going or keep you going on your PeaceWalker Path!

Keep Going,
~Craig

Wednesday, May 2, 2018

Reactionary Gap... Is Closer Safer?



Jeff rocking out his new Krav shirt he got at last weekend's 2.25 Crash Course!


Yesterday, I almost took a pic of me in my shorts, flip flops and Bahamas Hard Rock Cafe' t-shirt.

Why?!

Because it was sunny here and going up to 80!

...And although today is rainy, it's still warm!

Spring's Here!!

As if things couldn't get better after this weekend's Krav Maga Assault Prevention & Response 'Crash Course'!

People came from all over to train here in GR w/us. Winnipeg, Canada, Texas, Upper State Michigan, and of course locally.

We had a pretty full house of folks who were looking to be introduced to or hone their skills as PeaceWalkers!

Not only did we work on ways of protecting ourselves physically, we also explored awareness skills, and some of the simple 'practical' psychology of how aggressors choose the environment and their targets when it comes to violence and crime.

We also looked at their method of engagement of how they carry out their assaults.

At least one of the folks there training was particularly inspired by these exercises... Possible too much so... but we won't mention any names... TIM! =)


Overall everyone seemed to have a great time learning, connecting and re-calibrating their PeaceWalker Skills and Identity!


 Here's the crew that trained last weekend at the Krav 2.25 Crash Course
Great Job Gang!!


Don't Worry... But You Better Hurry!

Don't worry if you missed the course...

We video recorded the entire seminar!

I'll be posting part 1 up on www.peacewalker.net later this week! 

I'll post each of the other parts as we complete the editing and uploaded process to get them on the site!

Yes, that's right, all 5+ hours of Krav Ma-Rock'n Video Content!!

In order to see it, you have to be a peacewalker.net member!

But Hurry...

TIME'S RUNNING OUT!!

Because New Registration is Closing Next Week!

Beyond the 6 A's of Safety

If you came to this weekends seminar you know we went over the 6 A's of Safety which are

Attitude
Awareness
Avoid Isolation
Attract Attention
Act
Adapt

Rather then just writing what these things are, you can click on each of the links to my Youtube channel to SEE a short video clip that talks about each strategy.

But this is just the beginning...

Yes, you should continue to explore, implement and understand each of these, but life saving principles. (How's that for dramatic!?)

...and keep learning things beyond these principles  that can help you avoid or respond to conflict and violence...

Such as...
Distance is Time...

During this weekend's seminar one of our new PeaceWalkers hailing from Texas contributed a principle that distance equals time...

And we all know that the better we can control time the better chance we have at managing violence.

Now the assumption is that more space equals more time which equals more safety...

We think things like the (in)famous Reactionary Gap (which is between 21' to 29' depending on what research you are going from).

The drill goes like this:

An officer with his pistol holstered (open carry, external holster. Retention service holster?? Not sure...)  is 21' away from a knife wielding attacker who begins running at full tilt toward the officer.

The officer attempts to draw his weapon and shoot the assailant rushing in.

The research shows that in this scenario you need approximately 21' (to 29' feet) to draw your weapon, fire and disable the threat.

Any closer and the officer typically gets stabbed with the knife.

So from that famous study the legend of the  reactionary gap began and still exists to this day.

However what if I told you that...
Sometimes CLOSER is Safer...

Yea, you read that right...

Sometimes being CLOSER to the threat can give you the advantage to control the engagement more effectively!

How?!

Well, there are many ways, but let me illustrate one...

Think of a straight jacket...

You know, the thing that people are put in so they don't hurt themselves or others when they are emotionally out of control and being violent.

Is a straight  jacket more effective if it is tight or loose?

If it is loose. it gives the person being restrained the chance (and momentum) to break free.

So, in this case closer is better.

Let's look at another example...

If you are interacting with someone where it may become violent and you either find yourself or have no choice but to be in close proximity, getting INSIDE the reactionary action/reaction gap may be a better strategy...

But only if you know how to place your arms, legs and body in the right spot to 'Check the Space' so when they move, you (a) have something in place to impede their action and (b) are in a position to 'smother' their efforts... In essence 'beating them to the punch' so to speak.

Here is a video example for you to see me doing this

Keep in mind that this approach is only used in certain circumstances and I am not saying that closer is always better...

However in this example I may be forced to compress / collapse the space and in this case by positioning myself in a very particular way, So I could collapse the attackers space more quickly and effectively when they become aggressive, because of my close proximity. Even when reacting to his initial movement, I can still  'beat him to the punch' so to speak.

Thus making closer safer this time!

And remember that...

Tactical Space Isn't Just Physical

Tactical space is not just physical. It's emotional, psychological, verbal, social, (and MORE!).

Have you ever heard the old saying,

 'Keep your friends closer and your enemies closer."

That can be interpreted a lot of ways, many of which are dubious and unhealthy...

However, let's just look at one way that will illustrate my point of closer sometimes being safer.

If my enemies are close to me I should have better intel as to what they are up to, which can help keep me safe, by knowing what their plans are, so I can prepare for them and not be taken off guard.

If I was more distant from my adversaries I wouldn't know what they are up to and may be taken by surprise, putting me in more jeopardy. 

This is one way of staying safer by being closer.

 
Remember...

If you want to understand how to better protect yourself and control the 'Tactical Space' of conflict then don't miss your chance to join us on PeaceWalker.net!

Along with all of the Courses, MasterClasses, Tips, Tricks & Tactics, you'll ALSO get access to the entire 5+ hours of training videos from our last Krav Maga Assault Prevention & Response 2.25 'Crash Course'!!

SOOOOOOOO....

Don't Miss Out!!

Register NOW!

www.peacewalker.net


A Sneak Peek...

Here's a look at how the design on the NEW PeaceWalker Exclusive Pace Setter T-Shirts...

The dots w/hashtag is going on front and the logo w/the saying is going on back.

We're still making more than a few cool changes, but here's the direction it's going.

Remember...


These shirts are ONLY going out to the 30 or so people who were first on board w/PeaceWalker.net (you know who you are!).

The rest of you can simmmer in your envy! =) (evil smirk)

...BUT DON'T WORRY!!!

We are creating some REALLY COOL SWAG for everyone to enjoy!



Ok, that's all for now...


Have a great week and I'll see you soon!!


You got this,
~Craig