Wednesday, July 11, 2018

What to Do When Nice Doesn't Work!




Oh my gosh-ah!

Can you believe that July is already here!?!

Me either (...or is it me neither?! I can't remember...)

We waited all winter for this and now it's upon us!

You know what I'm going to say next right?!

Lots going on!!

(See, I told you...)

Anyway... I'm going to get 'right to it.' So to speak!

What To Do When Nice Isn't Enough?!

So, you...

(1) Dial in your Baseline (Attitude, Awareness, Appropriate Action) to be part of the solution, not the problem. 
(2) Separate the persons Life Value from their behavior and beliefs.
(3) Avoid power struggles & decided whether or not to even engage.
(4) (Upon deciding to engage) You begin appropriately managing the situation by  drawing clear, most good, least harm boundaries.

...but  Nice, Clear and Appropriate Isn't Working!!!!

Now What?!

Do you have a plan?

If so, what is it?

And...

Let Me Be Clear...

I'm not talking ONLY about defending yourself here...

Oh no!

That'd be too easy!

I'm asking you to consider this in your life!

What happens when one of your staff members keeps coming in late no matter how many times you told them nicely

What happens when you just spent a gazillion dollars on that marketing initiative but regardless, your business doesn't reach it's sales goals?

What happens when you ask your kid to behave, but they just won't?

What do you do when your significant other is annoying the sh*t out of you, you ask them nicely to stop... and they don't!

What do you do when you pull someone over for doing 13 over and they won't give you their licence?

What do you do when you ask your client for that big sale you've been working on all month, but nada! Nothing?!

What's next when you ask that obnoxious person to leave and they won't?

How do you handle that student who keeps acting up and disrupting class no matter what you seem to do?

What do you do when you're not getting your way and you've ran out of nice?


Taking It to the 'Next Level...'

Yes, one option is to go all Krav on their a$$...

And as good as that would feel, it's rarely the answer! =(

So, what am I talking about?

YOU have to take it to the 'Next Level.'

Meaning that it isn't so much about directly controlling the person or situation...

It's more about controlling YOU!

As Holocaust Survivor and Famous author of 'Man's Search for Meaning,' Viktor Frankl once said,

"When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves."

Now, don't take that as you have to lower your ethical standards, or even agree with what is happening...

No, no, no...

You don't, however, see it for what it is and change your strategy!

"Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results."

~Albert Einstein (allegedly)


4 Key Elements to Knowing What to Do When Nice Isn't Enough...

(1) Have CLARITY of what is important
(2) Have SKILLS in the area necessary to solve the problem
(3) Have CONFIDENCE in your abilities that you can adapt & still succeed 
(4) Have a Plan 'B' - a simple approach to what YOU will do if your 'Plan A' isn't working!

Skill in Conflict

If you are looking for greater skill when dealing with the full spectrum of human conflict (Ethical, Emotional, Verbal, Physical, Social) you may consider checking out the up coming PeaceWalker Course that will be opening for registration later this summer.

It will give you the tools to know what to do when nice isn't working!

More on that as we move through the summer...

In the meantime...

Enjoy your day and I'll catch up with you soon!


You got this,
~Craig

Tuesday, July 3, 2018

The THING Behind the Thing



Well, the 4th of July is almost upon us! 

I am in the Great White North here in Michigan doing some camping. (Pic featured above!)... Just south of the Big Mac Bridge. 

I escaped 'the wild' for a couple minutes to a wifi oasis to quick write you a little something something before going back out into the 'wilderness'. =)

I hope you are ready to celebrate the independence of this great country of ours with some friends and family this week?!

I like to take a minute or three to remember what the holiday is really all about, before going back to the beer, BBQ & other festivities. 


The THING Behind the Thing
What?!

Before you go unsubscribing... Give me a minute to explain...

Take the 4th of July where everyone is partying, bbq'n, drinking, family'n, camping, cooking out, boating, hanging out and having a good time. 

That's the 'Thing'...

But let's not forget the THING behind the thing, which in this case is remembering and celebrating our country's independence. 

So...

Take training tactical defense, martial arts or Krav Maga...


What is the THING Behind that Thing?

No matter what it is, we all get into our 'Stuff'.  You know?! If you're into shooting you might be into the latest, greatest, hi-tech weapon or accessory. If you're into martial arts, it might be the latest technique or rank, patch or weapon. 

Or maybe it's how many times you've been to Israel (or Japan) to train. Or how close your lineage is to the founder. Or how much notoriety you got at that tournament, promotion or award...

And there's nothing wrong with any of that... until there is! 

Why!?

Because it really ISN'T about any of that...

Come on now...

Try to remember WHY you started that journey in the first place. 

If you're anything like me, you started in the martial arts, Krav Maga, shooting, etc. because you wanted to learn how to Defend Yourself and Your Family!?

Yes, there may be some other reasons too, but that was my primary reason.

Was it yours too?! 

Is that why you started? 

If it is then that's the THING behind that thing is...

To Protect LIFE!

So while we are out there training that new technique you saw Eddie Bravo do on youtube, or you're getting that new Tactical Fluggle-binder for your Desert Eagle .50 Cal... 

Remember, the THING behind the thing, is first and foremost to learn and sustain the skills to protect LIFE... So in the event that you may have to use your skills or tools, they are there for you...

And that my friends is the...

The THING Behind the Thing!

So, if you are talking to someone who has a different approach than you do. Maybe a different martial arts style. Maybe they like revolvers and you're an automatic man. Maybe you stand by your Glock but the gal you're talking to swears by her Sig. 

Who cares?! 

My question is, 

Are you training to be a Protector of Life!?

Do you use your skills to do Most Good, Least Harm for everyone involved?

Are you training to walk in peace? To be a PeacWalker?!

Because if you are, no matter the flavor, or style, we're on the same side. We're fighting for the same thing. 

And I got your back! 

Speaking of Protecting...

Don't forget the PDD [PeaceWalker Deed of the Day] today! 

Post yours in our Facebook PeaceWalker Community Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/1790355384325766/ 


Some AWESOME Changes Coming! 

For those of you who want to stay better connected and are interested in more training in this Protector Lifestyle. We have some Exciting NEW things coming your way! 

1) More fb LIVE Training sessions.
2) LIVE MasterClass Q & A's! Opportunity to ask my MasterClass guests questions regarding their MasterClass!
3) LIVE 10 in 10's (10 questions in not quite 10 minutes) 

...and more!

Some of these coming changes will be for everyone... Other's will be for PeaceWalker.net Members Only! 

More info on that soon....

In the meantime...

Have a Great 4th of July Holiday!

...And when you're out there having all that home town fun, don't forget the THING behind the Thing!

Keep Going,
~Craig 


July 3rd